HE'S NOT MINE, BUT HE'S MINE
DEAR MS. G:
I have custody of my ten-year-old nephew. Sometimes I want his parents to get their lives together. Other times I have secret “Mommie guilt” because I don’t have children of my own. Can the cards give any insight about the next few years for us? Thank you.
SIGNED, J
DEAR J:
First, I want to thank you for trusting my input (and interpretation) on such a delicate matter. It’s important that I also acknowledge your dedication.
The cards gave considerable information, to say the least. It looks like you are currently experiencing a wave of emotions, especially regarding the amount of love, sacrifice, and service you have put in. More specifically, you may sometimes feel as though others aren’t “respecting your mind” or position on matters. Like, who are they to have so much to say after all this time?! Is this right? Surely this is tough to swallow but know this: your nephew will always remember all you have done and how you have handled this very crucial time in his life.
A plan is presented soon that outlines the proposed process to create more space for your nephew to incorporate spending time with his parents (the father, specifically). His mother will soon be in a better position financially and will be amicable about establishing presence slowly through provision. These things take place at a moderate speed that you will feel comfortable with. God is working and all things come together nicely. But do start preparing for transition now (emotionally, mentally, financially).
There are two men (one older and experienced) who will play a role in the next phase of your nephew’s life. It’s important to work with them for the greatest good of the child. He will need their guidance. They are well meaning and understand what is important as well as related emotional attachments. They see you.
Be cooperative and consider everything you have done as a life changing gift to the child. Prepare now to be patient and trust the process. It will all work out. You can avoid legalities and do what is best for him by putting the past behind you (and everyone involved) and being the voice of reason by promoting that everyone come together to build a strong unit around the boy. He deserves it.
Also, you will have opportunities for an increase in work and/or new career opportunities soon (next month and a half). It looks like you need to know that. I hope this helps.
SIGNED, MS. G
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